THE WARDROBE
‘Brethren, pay close attention for the Lord has a word for you today. Amen?’
‘Amen!!!!!!!!!!’. We all chorus and wave our hands in the air. Some wave to show off their freshly manicured nails…some to show off their designer watches…some to tell the world ‘hey, see my finger…I’m now married’…few wave in true appreciation to our Abba Father. All na wave, abi?
I open my Sunday book, bring out my pen and open my ears and heart to hear from God. I am distracted for a while as a lady waltz in and takes the sit beside me. Mehnnnnn, she is HOTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!
Then from the row behind me:
Snide comments
‘Hmmmmmm……’
‘See her skirt bikonuuuuuuu’
‘Ehhhhh, and the top is even semi-transparent kwa’
Tongue clicking. Conversation continues.
‘See her hooker heels sef’
‘And the slit on her skirt…heyyyyyyyyyy’.
Infact, it was obvious that so many people were disheartened by the lady’s ‘church’ attire.
Looking at the ‘hooker shoes’, my mind drifts.
I was brought up to always put on my ‘Sunday’s best’ when I go to church because ‘…how you dress speaks volumes on how you reverence God’ mummy says. Whether we like it or not people draw assumptions about us based on how we look. I definitely wouldn’t want people drawing the wrong conclusions about my focus in life. Modesty, especially amongst us ladies, is a major issue in our churches and even though I don’t like chewing someone’s Chloroquine tablet, I am responsible for being my “sister’s” keeper.
Most people are concerned about modesty because it triggers another sin…Lust (in its various forms), that sends men, and sometimes women spiraling down the wrong road and sexual violence.
Yes, our physical presentation has the ability to negatively influence men. We know it, but some of us have chosen not to do anything about it.
Here is where spiritual maturity comes in. It will help you evaluate yourself. A godly heart should esteem others above ‘myself’. A sin-sick heart is focused on ‘myself’. Agreed. We all want to look attractive. There is no sin in that. But we should, where necessary, confront the issue if our motivation to dress is too look ‘attractive’ without any consideration for others.
Nakedness has always been a symbol of shame, beginning with Adam and Eve in Genesis 3:7. God has said “…in like manner, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefastness and sobriety…(1Timothy 2:9). Sobriety has to do with good judgement, moderation and decency. Even the Bible describes two types of clothings: the attire of a harlot (Proverbs 7:10), and modest apparel (1 Timothy 2:9). Our body is not for advert, so we should not put ourselves on ‘exhibition’. If we care about what God thinks, we would never appear in public in clothing that is purely of, by and for the world.
I like wearing trousers to church and even to work. When I have to wear a skirt, I match it with a scarf to drape around my knees so I am not exposed when I sit. I don’t have to, but I just do because I don’t want to be a distraction.
True, some ladies may not know their dressing is a distraction. But in our society, we believe ‘improperly’ dressed ladies dress to ‘hook’ a man.
Please be your brother’s keeper and help him abstain from fleshy lusts which war against the soul. It goes to show that outward behaviours are reflections of our spiritual being. A changed heart leads to a changed life…and also a changed wardrobe.
Can I see your wardrobe?
‘OFFERING TIME’
‘BLESSING TIMEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!’
‘Brethren, dip your hands into your pocket and bring out something for God…’
Can u imagine? The service has ended and I DID NOT get that word from God.
Posted on January 26, 2014, in Dear Jesus and tagged A Christian's wardrobe, Immodest dressing, lust. Bookmark the permalink. 40 Comments.
Ezar's Chronicles 
Simply Beautiful…keep it up!
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Thank you Lady D!
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Ezar,this is a wonderful post not only for d church but 4 d larger world.I can see u wear trousers to church.In my church it is forbidden nd considered improper for a woman 2 wear a man’s clothing.Whats ur take on dat?
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Lol…
In the days of Jesus, everyone wore robes. There were no pants or skirts or dresses. Even Jesus wore robes.So the question about forbidding women from wearing pants based on the bible is a moot question because the bible does not say anything about pants.We have to look at the intent behind the statements in the bible about cross-gender presentation. There were important reasons to prevent cross-gender presentation in the times of Jesus -Women presenting as men could be unsafe. She could be killed in a war. She could be treated badly in a scuffle. Likewise, men presenting as women would not receive the rights that men were given above women in society 2000 years ago.Those are the reasons why the bible talks about not wearing cross-gender clothing.All clothes are human made. God did not make anybody’s clothes and God did not design any gender’s clothes. So God really doesn’t care what you wear.The bible tells us things to keep us safe and for the structure of society to be maintained. In short, God is not going to punish you and you are not going to hell if you wear cross-gender clothing.In the modern world, wear whatever you want, but most of the ten commandments are still relevant -don’t worship idols, work hard for 6 days and take Sunday off to pray and be thankful for life, don’t murder, don’t cheat on your husband/wife, don’t steal, don’t get your neighbor into trouble for no reason, don’t have sexual feelings for someone else’s wife/husband.Most people do not follow the above commandments. The clothing you wear is a non-issue if you look at at the number of times you have violated the above commandments each year.
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Loooooool Alika… the closing line got me reeling.
The opening line got me thinking of some of those times when I have been guilty of all three sins and very grateful for the fact that today even with my freshly manicured nails (I sent you a picture yeah? Lol), designer wristwatch and the double ring, I can truly focus on my sugar daddy as I raise my hand in worship. Cos He has been too faithful, too sweet, and too deserving of my true worship…
That scarf tho, very necessary. If for nothing, for the sake of our umu nwoke n’ime Chineke’. And so the preacher doesn’t tell us to open to the book of Abraham…
This totally lovely fab hot mom walked into church today in this lovely yellow chiffon topics, a navy blue skirt that stopped midway on her thighs and gold heels carrying her fab baby girl. I loved her immediately (you know me now). Then when she sat, my heart went out to all the guys looooool. But before I knew it, she whipped out her scarf and was good to go… hehehe. Fabulous and wise…
Of course you know some guys will be distracted no matter what… we just hand them over to mmuo nso… lol.
This post made me miss TA Agbowo all over again for the second time today.
As I sat in church today, I didn’t stop thinking about 3 people… Ruth warrens, Valerie and my booski. And of cos pastor bunmi. I am sure you know why. And if you are laughing at me, just know that God is judging you…. Alika.
Lovely piece Sugar…
Muah
E’
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Lol…Hehehehehehehehe…lwkmd. Ezi must have been staring at d lady ehhhhhhhhh.i can imagine. Lol…we miss you too oooooooo. Thank you Lady E!
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So cool, you have an intresting way of driving points home, backin it up with scriptures, keep it up Nebs
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I agree wit u perfectly.Dietwise,we are what we eat.Likewise what we wear spells who we are, nd ‘label’ us.Some young ones call it ‘modernity’,nd the proper dressing, ‘old skool’.Thank God 4 d dress code in some churches/institutns/orgs.Surprisingly,some mothers wear same nd therefore are not good examples 2 their children.No alternative 2 proper dressing,esp to Church.Moderatn is d key 4 Christlikeness.
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Yeah…moderation is the key. Thank you ma.
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Spot on….not only to church is modesty required o nne..The things I see at work ehn😭. Used to be a trouse r person but this days my love has grown for skirts and dresses so I take a scarf along to drape over esp cos my office space is shared and even on the bus too.
In my church we have a corner for pple who dress inappropraitely nobody is letting pastor say open to the book of Abraham in E’s words.
Once again nice write up… I like that u are telling the necessary truths.
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not just to church but every where and any where, it pays to be modest am a living testimony
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In church satan tries as much as possible to distract one,by instillin various thots into one’s mind!while u r tryin to bind d devil,wen u remember that u avnt bn listenin to d pastor,but d very beloved beans and corn,u are supposed to make and d best way to prepare it!in walks d ladies,wit short tube gown,and all sorts ,(dnt even kno d names).one especially walks forward wit her ultra micromini,sits in the frnt row,crosses leg,faces pastor and pings away!of course,u stop bindin the devil and focus on liftin back ur jaw frm d floor!then u scan the men around to c if dey noticed wat u just saw manifest in frnt of u! Of course 90% have seen. u wonder whether to laff @ dem or b annoyed wit d lady!all d while satan z nw laffin hysterically,happy he has gotten both male and female in d church focusin on irrelevant tinz!chai!!!!!!!
Baba God na ur hand I dey!
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Everytime I read your posts, i’m torn between remaining surprised&tongue-tied at your depth and saying a huge thank you to God for treasure in earthen vessels.
I also appreciate the wise,detailed&knowledgeable manner in which you answer questions.
Bless your heart Dumebi! This post hit the right notes. Forthright too, without mincing words about scriptural take on a delicate matter like this.
I’m not sorry you got distracted in church and missed the word. :p it produced this thoughtful message afterall, soo, you are not condemned… Lol
May the wisdom within you bless more lives.
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Ladies,skirts/dresses dat are not long enough nd dat u must use a scarf 2 cover d exposed area is not proper.For our Lord’s sake,why not hv ‘sunday’clothes dat are longer nd save u d inconvenience of using a scarf.Ur dressing shuld be unto God nd not unto ‘men’or ur perceived admirers.Heavenly race is a serious business.Run to win.
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My Bros,u are right.The Bible says dat we should not b a stumbling block 2 our fellow Christians so dat they can run well nd make heaven.Men,these sisters described in d post are STUMBLING BLOCKS in d Church today.I choose 2 walk over them nd not fall.Brothers,flee frm themoooooooooo.Jesus is coming soon.
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Fellow ushers,never allow these ‘objects of distraction’2 sit in fronf no matter how early they come 2 Church.They must b kept far frm holy men of God.Some of them are agents of darkness.
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Many of them are dressing 2 get hooked.What they dont know is dat christian brothers are looking 4 women dat are beautiful on d inside.We are not mugus.Women are plenty,but few are marriageable.I desire 2 marry a modest/decent looking sister.This is d favour dat i desire 2 obtain frm d Lord.Thank u my Lord.
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Sis Ezar,u 4got 2 talk about d saggers in church,exposing what is supposed 2 be an underwear(under-d-wear).I prefer seeing our bros in church properly dressed,preferably in suits or trads which i know dat they cannot sag.Wearing their dark ‘rayban’ sunglasses in d church is worrisome.Are they visually challenged?Na wa 4 fashionoooooo.
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Nice post dear.
Dressing modestly is the key. Not just to church but work also. Its simple, would Jesus be happy to see me wearing this if he were to be physically present?
Ive had to slap myself once or twice for wearing something i kept on tugging at. When one is well dressed there are no worries.
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just as we hv work ethics,we shuld also hv Church ethics.Hear Paul-‘These things write i unto thee…..that thou mayest know how 2 behave thyself in d House of God,which is d Church of d Living God,d pillar nd ground of truth'(1 Tim3:14,15).Every denominatn must hv a dress-code.Pastors must set boundaries,period!!!
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Your method of explaining all in this article is in fact good, every one be able to effortlessly understand it, Thanks a lot.
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My brother u are right.Why treat God wit contempt?Can these ‘Azonto’babes ever wear those scanty clothes 2 a job interview?They dare not! Is it not b/c they have refused 2 see wit their spiritual eyes,Him who is invisible, d Consuming Fire.These are perilous times-work out ur salvatn wit fear nd trembling.
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This is a really good tip particularly to those new to the blogosphere. Brief but very precise information Many thanks for sharing this one. A must read post!
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Babes,if u show off publicly all ur private areas in d name of fashion,what is left 4 ur husband?Pls keep all 4 his eyes only-winner takes all.
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The Bible says,’looking unto Jesus’.Bros nd Sis,watch how u look b/4 u become guilty of fornicatn or adultery.Rem.Jesus said,You hv heard dat it was said,’Do not commit adultery’.But i tell you dat anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery wit her in his heart.IF YOUR RIGHT EYE CAUSES YOU TO SIN,GOUGE IT OUT AND THROW IT AWAY.It is better 4 u to lose one part of ur body than 4 ur whole body 2 b thrown into hell(Matt 5:27-29).Take heed!!!
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Brethren,d one i cant stand is a blouse on leggings/tight,revealing contours of pants nd flabby thighs.Its not abt what is trending,but what fits,nd pleases our Master.Tights/leggings will not b part of my future wife’s wardrobe.My eye shuld b on her wardrobe 2 remove ‘offensive rags’.
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Bro Peter,u are very very right!Men shuld b interested in what their babe/spouse wear,frm courtship 2 marriage,2 approve or disapprove.I wuldnt want her 2 b an object of ridicule or b labelled 2 b what she is not.Yes indeed,if u wear a prostitutes attire,u will b labelled one even if u are not.Who wuldnt want a ‘good label/Christian label’ 4 d wife?
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Somebody should come 2 my help.During courtship,my wife loved d ‘offensive’clothes.Then,i frowned at them,thinking dat wen we get married,she will hv a ‘married woman’s wardrobe’ nd dress responsibly.But it is not so.She claims theres nothing wrong wit them,but i see every thing wrong wit them nd its tearing apart my marriage.What do i do 2 stop her indecent dressing?
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Emeka,it is our God who softens a heart dat is hardened 2 go her own way.So patiently pray nd ask God 2 soften her heart,nd give her d grace 2 dress responsibly nd decently.As u wait upon d Lord 2 work on her,save enough money 2 take her shopping nd change her wardrobe.Rem,its not by might nor by power bt by d Spirit of God.We are praying along wit u.It is well!
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Fashion in subtle ways exposes nudity amongst women.Can u ever imagine dat ppl wear ‘show back’to Church?Check out our ‘older’women whose traditional blouses expose their back 2 below d mid-region.Dis is a ‘huge’distractn 2 those dat sit behind them.When they are already married,who are they showing their back to?For d unmarried,wuld ur back add points 4 ur approval?Women,as mother of nations,dress sensibly nd responsibly 4 a better society.
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Mummy Ruth,apart frm nudity,artificiality amonst women is worrisome.U can image ladies without weave-ons,wigs,eyelashes,artificial nails etc.Yesterday,it was’African beauty’nd men could easily make their choice.Today it will b more difficult with ‘padded’everything.I was surprised 2 see padded girdles.Na wao!
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Brethren,i am a woman in distress.U can easily label my sweet daughter a modest Christian lady until i visited her in school nd what i saw was an eyesore.My daughter was dressed like d Azonto babes frm her head 2 her feet.I was so shocked 2 utter a word nd left her school immediately.So my daughter is a Christian at home,but an Azonto babe at school?What hypocrisy nd deceptn!
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I love this, looool! Your readers have said it all abeg. A friend of mine would sing this song when I confront her immodest dressing with the scriptures:
“All things bright and beautiful
All creatures great and small,
All things wise and wonderful
The Lord God made them all”
After the soulful rendition of this song I keep mute. She is well-versed in the scriptures so I’d like to save the preaching for someone who needs it. At this point na prayer I dey pray for her. Lol 😀
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This post is just the painkilleIr we need in this generation where fashion has been reduced to nudity and quite appraised by all too.God bless you;more grace,more annointing
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splendid write up…ope we al learn frm it tho
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Ladies in church must learn to dress modest so they can reflect christ . While some do others dress to be seen. This is what I call ” I need. A man badly stuff” you don’t need to dress indecent to attract any man .
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