DANGEROUS MEN

It’s every girl’s dream to one day get married to that man that would make her happy and make her life better. Believe it or not, marriage is a big issue when it comes to a girl’s life, no matter how successful she is or how indifferent she seems to marriage, she wants it bad. The society and even families have actually not made it any better. So ladies of a certain age begin to worry and become anxious about wearing a ring and walking the aisle in a white dress .In the process due to poor judgment and not hearing from God, some ladies have jumped into marriages that have brought about their downfall. For the single ladies, here is a list of men that you should never say I DO to.
THE UNBELIEVER:
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Please write 2 Corinthians 6:14 on a Post-it note and tack it on your computer at work. It says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). This is not an outdated religious rule. It is the Word of God for you today. Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success (or his willingness to go to church with you) push you to compromise what you know is right. “Missionary dating” is never a wise strategy. If the guy is not a born-again Christian, scratch him off your list. He’s not right for you. I’ve yet to meet a Christian woman who didn’t regret marrying an unbeliever.

SMOOTH OPERATOR/PLAYER:
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This brother thinks he is God’s gift to women. He is calculating, well spoken, tactical and a smooth operator. He goes about proposing to ladies and convincing them saying stuff like “it is a special mystical attraction, something beautiful , beyond you and I”, and for the very spiritual ladies he tells them “it is the will of God”, only to go back on his word when he sees another lady he believes is better than the last one. He has a sugar coated tongue and can talk himself out of any situation. “It is you not me,” ” I just need sometime alone to get myself together”, ” I don’t think, I am good enough for you”. Most times he even extorts money from the ladies, promising to give it back because his check has been delayed, his clients has not paid, his dog died or in the name of God’s will (mschewwww). From such, run.

THE PERVERT:
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To the freakish and wayward lady he may appear fun to be with, he is always talking about sexually related topics and cracking dirty jokes, he indulges in pornographic materials, he believes women are meant to cook and be slept with only. He believes sex is a recreation, and so pays no mind to how many partners he has had, would ask for sex before marriage and has no plans to buy a ring but prefers a live in lover and would simply claim it is a test of compatibility. Most of his friends are just like him, perverts! They would gather after work and talk about their many victorious conquests and if he eventually decides to marry, getting married to this brother would lead you down the path of heartbreak, misery, sin and disease. I wish I could say that if you meet a nice guy at church, you can assume he’s living in sexual purity. But that’s not the case today. We have Casanovas serving in church and raising ‘Holy’ hands on Sundays. If you marry a guy who was sleeping around before your wedding, you can be sure he will be sleeping around after your wedding.

MUMMY’S BOY:
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This mummy’s boy is in most cases a carbon copy of his mother and is tied to her Apron. All decisions have to be made by his mother (mummy said this, mummy said that), he would constantly compare you to his mother. You would soon discover that you are married to his mother. Why you should also never get married to a man who has no regard for his mother, don’t put yourself in the bondage of having a mother in law influenced marriage.
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This group also includes the weakling, who cannot put his foot down but would allow all members of his family treat his wife like a foot mat, seeing nothing wrong in the disrespect of his wife by his friends, and family alike. This kind of marriage is very heartbreaking as the wife might eventually lose all self-esteem and worth or be in a constant battle with her own extended family.

WORKAHOLIC:
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This brother is always chasing money at the expense of having good relationship with even his family members, in some cases he may be a nice man, but his priority is first anything that brings money even at the expense of having a good relationship with anyone even God, you would constantly feel alone in that marriage and you would have the sole responsibility of raising your kids. He would give you money but money we know is not everything. Run from the workaholic.

THE LONE RANGER:
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This Man (lone Ranger) has issues with all his family members, his place of work and he does things solely on his own. He is his own mentor and he looks up to nobody, he rates himself by himself for himself. This type of man is one of the most dangerous men to marry because your life, career, vision, everything would be at his mercies. This kind of man also tends to be abusive because they are answerable to no one but themselves. Men with abusive tendencies can’t control their anger when it boils over. If the guy you are dating has a tendency to fly off the handle, either at you or others, please don’t be tempted to rationalize his behavior. He has a problem, and if you marry him you will have to navigate his minefield every day to avoid triggering another outburst. Angry men hurt women—verbally and sometimes physically. Find a man who is gentle.

THE DICTATOR:
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This brother is also close to the lone ranger, he seems to be nice and considerate sometimes but afterwards you discover that the only opinion that counts is his. His words are louder than his actions. He has his whole life planned out and you are supposed to just fit in or there would be trouble, he sees your thoughts, ideas and opinions as inferior to his. He is a vision killer. Marrying you would just be something on his bucket list, then you would also need to fulfill another, which is all what he believes and wants you to be to him. He is simply a dictator not a husband. This kind of man would also occasionally hit his wife or fiancée (let abuse be a tie breaker in whatever relationship you are in). Some Christian guys today believe marriage is about male superiority. They may quote Scripture and sound super-spiritual, but behind the façade of husbandly authority is deep insecurity and pride that can morph into spiritual abuse. First Peter 3:7 commands husbands to treat their wives as equals. If the man you are dating talks down to you, makes demeaning comments about women or seems to squelch your spiritual gifts, back away now. He is on a power trip. Women who marry religious control freaks often end up in a nightmare of depression.
Sometimes this brother comes around with a drinking addiction, or drug habit. From such flee. Churchgoing men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help and walk away. And don’t get into a codependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.

THE LAZY BONE:
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This brother is slow, always inactive, prefers to be fed in bed, has no focus, or clearly cut goals, has a non -chalant attitude to everything around, finds it difficult to keep his house, his clothes or even his car clean, tends to be disorganized and clumsy, this lazy bone needs just about 3 helps NOT a wife.

BROTHER FOR SHOW:
This brother lives in the “notice me” world, he can do anything for people as long as it is in public and people would like him at the expense of his own family, or even himself. This is the kind of man that can take his female colleague or boss to the grocery store or Main markets to buy things while his own wife or family member would take a cab. He goes to clean other peoples’ yard while his is dirty because he wants to be seen and respected by the public. You would be better off being the public to this brother than being his family member.

THE LIAR:
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If you discover that the man you are dating has lied to you about his past or that he’s always covering his tracks to hide his secrets from you, run for the nearest exit. Marriage must be built on a foundation of trust. If he can’t be truthful, break up now before he bamboozles you with an even bigger deception.

THE BUM:
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I have a female friend who realized after she married her boyfriend that he had no plans to find steady work. He had devised a great strategy: He stayed home all day and played video games while his professional wife worked and paid all the bills. The apostle Paul told the Thessalonians, “If anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either” (2 Thess. 3:10). The same rule applies here: If a man is not willing to work, he doesn’t deserve to marry you.

THE NARCISSIST:
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I sincerely hope you can find a guy who is handsome. But be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts closeups of his biceps on Facebook, you have a problem. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is infatuated with his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially, like Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). The man who is always looking at himself in the mirror will never notice you.

THE MAN-CHILD:
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Call me old-fashioned, but I’m suspicious of a guy who still lives with his parents at age 35. If his mother is still doing his cooking, cleaning and ironing at that age, you can be sure he’s stuck in an emotional time warp. You are asking for trouble if you think you can be a wife to a guy who hasn’t grown up. Back away and, as a friend, encourage him to find a mentor who can help him mature.

If you are a woman of God, don’t sell your spiritual birthright by marrying a guy who doesn’t deserve you. Your smartest decision in life is to wait for a man who is sold out to Jesus. You are much better off single than with the wrong guy!
Love is patient and kind but not blind. Pray for the right man for you and also open your eyes. Did I forget to mention that only the right lady finds the right man?

About Ezar

I'm in love with my dreams, married to success and having an affair with life ;) I live for the moments you can't put into words and I dont look back...unless there's a good view.

Posted on March 17, 2014, in Relationship and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 88 Comments.

  1. Hmmm, God always has a way of getting through to his own!
    This is an eye opener. God bless your wisdom

    http://www.myloudthought.wordpress.com

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  2. Jesuuuuu. This is bad.

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  3. Brilliant Ezar. Just Brilliant. All of them are disgusting. The Narcissist is just annoying. Ahhhh, mama’s boy is too irritating. Im glad u did this post

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  4. Ezar, this is not fair. Where did u even get yhe horrible pictures u used? Check out d unbeliever and the narcissist and the bomboy. Should I even talk about the man child? This is really bad.

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  5. Lmao…I can’t shout. May God keep us away from this men in Jesus name. I like d post Ezar.

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  6. Wtf…the ladies will rejoice

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  7. This post is not pleasant to read for men whose characters hv been discussed here. The men above exist by d numbers. I cant stand mummy’s boys and d pictures used for them r apt. Good post

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  8. Lol…I wld love to meet this chic. What a mean post

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  9. The unbeliever…lwkmd. Ezar, why did you have to use that picture?

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  10. In truth, some unbelievers behave way better than the so called Christians.

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  11. I love this post and it’s so so true!!! Nice one Dum-Dum

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  12. I hv dated Christian guys and no head way. I regret the times I wasted with them. My bf is just there and its been heaven all d way. Different folks for different strokes

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    • The problem may be u. If All d Christian dudes u hv ‘dated’ hv issues, maybe u should check urself. Before I blow grammar, r u sure u are a true Christian? I doubt it. I also hope all ur dating was ‘sex free’. Dont make urself a second hand material

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  13. I think d dictator is d worst. U dont have a life at all with him.

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  14. Thank you Ezar. This is a ver good post. Thank u

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  15. Men should read this and make amends. Women should read and make wise choices. Good one.

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  16. This man child picture is bad!…see how d guy looks. As always, well done Dumdum

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  17. Pray well, choose well, marry well, live well

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  18. Good day Ezar. I would like to know your stand on threesomes in marraige. It has been giving me tough time and I do not know how to handle the complications arising in my marriage. And pls ur email addy would be needed. Tnx

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  19. The obsessed(possessive) brother nko?

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  20. lol… Nice one sis

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  21. Flee frm d dictator or u will live in bondage under his control for life.He is very dangerous to Career women.

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  22. Beware,d Liar might have a family somewhere nd pretend 2 be single…make sure u won’t be a 2nd wife….dat will b dangerous.

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  23. All d pics are dangerously dangerous nd truely personifies their character.The unbeliever looks like his father Satan,with a pot-belly filled wit uncertainities dat are delivered after wedding…wen u see their true colour.They are d most dangerous wit Satan as ur father-in-law.

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  24. Most young girls dangerously fall prey 2 d player.He knows how 2 talk them/flatter them into submission.Our celebrities are good players…the ‘ladies men.’Jim Iyke acts it well in movies nd also in real life.They hardly ‘commit’ to marriage.They flatter wit their mouth but their heart is far frm u.Watch out ladies!

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  25. For d mummy’s boy,it is ‘twin-marriage’to Mother nd Child.To be married to one is more than enough,plus a mother-in-law,…dats Tsumamiooooo.

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  26. mmmm..’Brothers for show’are common features of PA’s of d Oga’s on top.They are men-pleasers,but home-deserters….u are only worth their left-over time/affection.

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  27. The Narcissist must have d latest pnone or car,even if theres no food on the table.He always go for what is trending…i guess he lives for himself…self lover,nd perhaps not a God-lover.He will ‘wear’ his tithe than pay it.they prefer working ladies to housewives so dat they can have more 2 spend on themselves…no liability!

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  28. Materialistic babes wouldnt mind a workaholic man,as long as d money is coming in.They have a way of ‘filling’time until d man is available.Here love is not d bond,but Kudi,ego,money….

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  29. Picky Suzzy wouldnt mind ‘all of d above’including lazy bone nd Bum.Women,make frustration no carry u go meet danger.Lazy bone nd bum are liabilities!

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  30. not bad…. so ladies u now hv a variety to choose from…choose a guy based on ur prescription. .

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  31. Ezar,maybe there should be Dangerous Men 2,to include the possessive/obsessed,the religious bigot,the 419ners,the Panel-beater who panel-beats her woman into shape,the Parrot who talks more than women,the arrogant son of the rich who boasts in d wealth dat he never worked for,the Name-dropper who will tell u dat he is d Senate-presidents aide wen he hasnt been to Abuja…………..

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  32. the man-child nd momma’s boy are home-lovers….they are like fish dat must stay in water or they die.It will need prayers to uproot them from d familiar to d unfamiliar!

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  33. Ezar,are u coming up wit d GOOD GUYS,to help us in making d right choice?I cant afford a costly mistake dat will cost me my young life in hell-on-earth.

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  34. @Faith,make sure dat he is FIRST a believer,nd then u can build on it according to ur taste.With Papa God as ur Father nd Father-in-law,nothing spoil…no shaking.

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  35. The Unbeliever’s picture symbolizes d ugliness of sin/sinner.

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  36. I married an unbeliever against d Word of God,hoping 2 convert him.By d time he started vomitting out d ‘evil’in his pot-belly,i paid dearly for disobeying God.He was devil-incarnate….like father like son.I pray dat one day he will be saved…lost hope in converting him….u can’t.Conversion is d work of d Holy Spirit nd not d work of man!Was i not foolish?I WAS!!!Lord pls forgive me.

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  37. May God forgive u my sister.I have seen dangerous religious bigots who claim they are believers but are not.Rem dat by their fruits u shall know.Ignorance is no excuse.If u marry,u don marry b dat.Shine Your Eyesooooooo.

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  38. Dumdum,i like d pictures.Pictures indeed speak louder than words.They add colour to d post…hilarous indeed!

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  39. Just look at d spaghetti legs of d man-child.He can’t stand d stormy wind of life….will collapse under it.He must be an unstable person,wit unbalanced lifestyle.Watch out ladies!Go for d real man like me.

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  40. hmmm….99% of men fall into either one category or the other. the other 1% tends towards Mr.Perfect (no recorded statistics though).
    Please can you advise about the different categories of women guys should flee from

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  41. Cheiii…..i just remembered The Flirtatious aka Woman wrapper/the Heartbreaker.With his tolotolo neck,its anything in skirts/leggings….the rolling stone without any mission,but 2 gratify his lustful desires.U can also call him a’distributor’,distributing his ‘seed’to any available container.Wen he now settles down,he discovers too late dat there is no single seed left 4 his wife.He gives d fertile woman a new name,’Barren’,subjecting her to doses of prayer/fasting nd reducing her to tears.Be not deceived,Mr Flirtatious!God cannot be mocked….whatever a man sows he will reap in this life.

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  42. The Flirtatious are just like the perverts.The only difference is dat d pervert is vulgar nd indecent in speech nd lifestyle.I can’t stand the pervert.He is the ‘gutter’man with filth oozing out frm his spirit,soul nd body.U can call him a scallywag…no beauty in him dat u shuld desire him.He is a mirage!

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  43. D ladies here are not smiling. I love d post Ezar. More grace in Jesus name

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  44. Ladies know all that has been written in d post. But pressure to put a ring just make them do silly things and make unwise decisions. D society should also not put undue stress on those pursuing relationships.

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    • I agree with u. D endless pressure and pitfalls tied to landing a husband have made so many ladies enter relationships with the wrong men.

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  45. Parental pressure most especially, 2 avoid stigmatizatn.Hear the society…they have daughters dat are not married as if something was d matter.

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  46. The girl-child is under the pressure of a backward society dat think they dont deserve basic educatn,but shuld be married out immediately to any available suitor without any delay,nd assume their duty as a ‘baby factory’.

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  47. My name is peace nd i am a peace loving person who chose d path of purity in a world bedevilled with sexual immorality.Fortunately/unfortunately,i met a Lone Ranger who played d sweet guy until we were married.He physically nd verbally abused me,This was a man dat i kept my virginity for.Was this d case of throwing d pearl to d swine.To crown it all,in his possessiveness,he grounded me to be a housewife.Surprisingly,he is a servant of God nd cheats on me with impunity.He is also a serial liar….lies with so much ease dat ppl might believe he is telling d truth.They play god nd defy God.Nothing u do satisfies them,nd in d fit of anger can kill.Ladies,i married as an unbeliever nd didnt pray for direction nd guidance….i am now one.PRAY!PRAY!!PRAY!!!The lone rangers come masked nd only d power of God can expose them for who they are.They are dangerously dangerous nd will reduce u to tears,nd perhaps lead u to an untimely death.After d unbeliever,he is d next in line.Flee from a lone ranger or u are doomed.I am still praying 4 divine interventn.Pray for me nd all those married to lone rangers…for our deliverance. All u men of God dat abuse ur wives nd commit adultery,there is a day of reckoning….a pay day.God in heaven will judge d adulterer nd d sexually immoral(Hebrews 13:4).

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  48. Madam,i can see ur marriage experience is exactly d same as d lone ranger above,even worse.This is serious.I have to memorize d flawed character of a lone ranger so dat i do not fall into d same ditch.The one i cant stand is for a man to trample down my virginity with a flawed character.If no be for God,some men do not deserve virgins,but dogs like them.

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  49. Yesoooo,its like throwing precious pearl to a swine(piggy) dat will muddy it, nd trample it under his piggy foot.A pig is a pig.They dont mind marrying prostitutes.To them,its the same anatomy.

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  50. Virgins,pls dont be discouraged.Remain chaste unto d Lord.I earnestly desire to marry one….nd i will truly appreciate her for keeping herself for me.

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