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I received a broadcast message on a group on my blackberry messenger.

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The message was posted by a Christian acquaintance. It contained some juicy information about a common friend of ours…as in, really juicy.
Catch this: Ladies, guess what? I just saw Debra hanging out with this guy in Frosties. Omg!!! And they were in a compromising position. Isn’t she married? Nawaoooooo. And she will now raise up holy hands in church. Kaiiiiiii. The Lord has a way of revealing those of us who really know him, and those that don’t! Can u just imagine Debra”
My mouth is wide open.
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I go further to read the reactions of other members of the group.
Member 1: I knew it. Hypocrite…that girl
Member 2: Why are u surprised? She looks the kind
Member 3: ohhhhhhh. Thank God im not that kind of Christian
Member 4: imagine. Church workeroooooooooooooooooooooo
Member 5: truly, God has a way of revealing those who really know him….
Blablablaaaaaaa. And my mouth is still open.
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I raise my face from my blackberry and look at my friend who has been lying on my couch since yesterday, watching Lekki Wives.
Yes, I look at Debra…with my mouth still wide open.
Debra, the subject of our group ‘discussion’.
Debra, who is right now at Frosties with another man…but also lying comfortably on my couch with nothing on but her silly bunny night gown.
Of course, it came to light that the initial sender of the message heard it from someone who heard it from someone in the salon where another someone picked it up from. Yes dears, when the devil is not around to blame, blame SOMEONE.
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So, while this message is false in all ramifications, it speaks volumes about the sender who spreads and justifies gossip in the name of the Lord.
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The Apostle Paul puts gossip in context when he lumps it with other “wickedness” in Romans 1:29-30:
“Being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, malice; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful.”
Electronic gossip is only the latest form of a spiritual disease that runs rampant in our churches.
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Nowhere in scripture are believers encouraged to speak about anyone behind their backs. We are enjoined to confront others lovingly when we have disagreements.
“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.” (Matthew 18:15)
When in doubt, we might look to James 1:26: If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.
I believe that every word we utter should pass through “three gates,” each with a gatekeeper asking … a) is it kind? b) is it true? c) is it necessary?
We should try to replace words that hurt with words that encourage, enrich and engage.
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In the past, what took the sting out of gossip was that it was impermanent, localized and would disappear with fading memories, now gossip is everywhere and permanent because the Internet doesn’t forget. Years ago, people who were picked on or gossiped about in high school could graduate, move away and start fresh. These days, the gossip follows them. It’s online forever.
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As for myself, I won’t forget a story I read recently about a teenage girl going to a dance. “My mother was waiting for me when I came home,” she wrote. “But instead of telling her I had a great time, I regaled her with a scathing description of some incredible nerd who’d tried to dance with me. In essence, I said that this guy had a lot of nerve to expect anyone to dance with a person as weird and ugly as he was.
“When I finished my tirade, my mom said, ‘You know, this boy you find ugly and weird is some mother’s pride and joy. She waited for him to come home, just like I waited for you, hoping to hear he’d had a nice time at the dance. But when he came home, she saw his face, she knew someone hurt him, and it broke her heart. So the next time a boy asks you to dance, before you turn him down or make fun of him, just remember: Every boy is some mother’s son.’
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It was a lesson in compassion. The lesson is simple “Treat everyone the way your mother would want everyone to treat you.” I trust my mum naaaaaa. She would ALWAYS want me to be treated like the princess I am (big grin).
Yes, we may need stronger laws to curb Internet gossip.
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We may need leaders who can advocate for cultural restraint. But in the meantime, it can’t hurt to keep certain phrases and questions in our minds,nudging us toward kindness.
Lets all do ‘www.kindness.com’, yeah?
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About Ezar

I'm in love with my dreams, married to success and having an affair with life ;) I live for the moments you can't put into words and I dont look back...unless there's a good view.

Posted on May 8, 2014, in Dear Jesus and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 74 Comments.

  1. I once confided in a sister who came as a peace ambassador,to settle i nd my fiance.By the time my eyes were clear,she not only separated us,but has begun to date him.She stabbed my back.I have ceased to trust most women,not exempting d men.Cursed is he dat puts her trust in man/woman!

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  2. Men also gossip to curry d favour of their General Overseer,or boss in their offices.They are reay to download d dossier of their victims.

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  3. Can we call whistleblowers,gossips?We live in a world where we no longer call a spade a spade.

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  4. Once i had a best friend who through gossip taught me to be a loner.It is better to walk alone than to partner wit a gossip.It is terribly terrible to have a gossip as a best friend….Be warned!

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  5. Brethren,do u know dat gossip runs in families?U are in trouble if u find a spouse frm such homes…it is only d redeeming power of d Blood of d Lamb dat will save u,ur spouse nd ur marriage.Shine ur eyes!

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  6. With a gossip around,u don’t need a voice recorder…will reproduce d talk of a ‘conference of speakers’verbatim.Watch out!

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  7. The gossip that i detest is d gossip frm a shagging husband about d wife,to ‘disposable’,d other woman.On what basis kwanu?The sweet mother of ur children?Mbanu!

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  8. I hate gossip. If i am d object of d hot gossip like DEBRA,it is d end of my relationship with d speakers,including d ‘Amebo’dat told me.Wouldnt trust them enough to hv anything to do with them.

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  9. Yesooooo.I remember Amebo,d notable gossip of ‘The Village Headmaster’…A popular NTA tv drama series.Though she was known in dat village as Amebo,she never repented.Gossip flowed in her veins…Gossip was Amebo nd Amebo was gossip.Hope many still remember her.

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  10. Whether internet gossip or networking or whistleblowing,its d same gossip,but with names changed along the line due to what is trending globally. Our Christian identity is what matters,nd should guide our conduct wen we are d object of gossip,esp in d social media.

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  11. Positively,i think d amebos help us to know our enemies who are friends in our presence,but back-stabbers behind us.I would call them ‘necessary evil’.

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  12. @Ezar…Thank you for informing us of d three gates dat can help us cage our tongue…Is it kind,..is it true..is it necessary.The 3rd gate is where we fail.Most gossips are not necessary if we can train ourselves not 2 be busy-bodies.

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  13. Tolu,thanks 4 dat observation.Since this post came out,i have tried to use those gates nd i am enjoying d result,nd i am happy with myself.’Is it true’gate has made me 2 drop hot gossips,b/c there is none to tell me d source.Tanx Ezar,the three-gate principle will guide me nd help tame my tongue.

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  14. The golden rule is well loaded nd can be applied to right many wrongs in our society.Dont gossip people if u dont want people to gossip you…period!

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  15. Biodun,i agree with u dat gossips are necessary evil.They help to expose to us d plans of d enemy so dat we can hit them b4 they hit us(anticipatry warfare).

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  16. When we come to realize dat those we make our objects of gossip are d temples of God,we will not gossip dem,or we end up despising d God dat lives in them,nd working out His purposes in their life.

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  17. These are perilous times,nd the world is becoming morally deficient.We should expect to see more gossips.

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  18. Another gate is dat we should be bold to repeat before the objects of our gossip the nasty things we said behind them.If u can’t,then cage ur tongue nd keep quiet!

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  19. Brother John,u are right.That is a good gate.A gossip is ready to repeat ur words verbatim.Its for u to confirm or deny.Most people deny what they said in ur absence nd become COWARDS.If u can’t repeat what u said,then why say anything at all?

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