LESSONS FROM RUTH

Hello everyone!
The past two weeks have been pretty hectic for me, but thank God I survived.
Last week, I was scheduled to teach my students in Grade 7 on ‘Service’. Ruth (of the Bible) was the illustration. The class was fun, I’m telling you. I made it an interactive class and there were so many views about Ruth. To round of the class, I gave the children 24 hours to prepare brief notes comparing Ruth to the modern day Nigerian woman. Ahhhh. You should have seen their presentations. Fantastic.
Here’s a summary of Ruth: Ruth can be read as a drama in four acts, with a prologue and epilogue attached. The prologue tells us how Naomi, her husband and two sons went to Moab, where her sons married. Eventually, Naomi’s husband and sons died, and she decided to return to Bethlehem in Judea (1:1-7). In the first act, Naomi tells her Moabite daughters-in-law, Orpah and Ruth, to stay in Moab. Orpah eventually agreed, but Ruth refused to leave Naomi and accompanied her to Bethlehem (1:8-22). The next act sees Ruth gathering barley in the fields of Naomi’s relative, Boaz, who showed special concern for Ruth (2:1-23). The third act takes place at the threshing floor where, at Naomi’s instigation, Ruth hides until Boaz falls asleep and then quietly lies down by his feet. When Boaz awakes, Ruth expresses her desire to marry him according to the custom of the kinsman-redeemer. But Boaz tells her that another man has a prior claim (3:1-18). Finally, at the city gate, the other relative renounces his claim, and Boaz marries Ruth (4:1-12). The epilogue relates Naomi’s joy at this turn of events and then lists some of Ruth’s descendants, including David (4:13-18).
So, my assignment revolved around act one: Compare the actions of Ruth in act one to a modern day Nigeria woman.

From Left to Right: Wunmi, Chayil, Semilore, Dunbarin, Funmi and Bimpe

From Left to Right: Wunmi, Chayil, Semilore, Dunbarin, Amarachi, Funmi , Bimpe and Timilehin


Now, I liked a few and it’s quite difficult for me to pick the best, so YOU are going to vote on who gets the highest point for a job well done.
Here we go.
Amarachi
Most Nigerian women would not have done what Ruth did. Most women will not stay with their mother in-law after the death of their husband. For what, really? For instance, if I was Ruth and had children, I think I would focus on my children’s education. If I was working, I definitely will NOT leave my job to accompany an old woman. I may consider remarrying and starting all over again. I will not travel to an unknown village with her. But I guess her unique kindness stood her out for consideration as a great, great, grandmother of Jesus, right?
From Left to Right: Amarachi, Funmi and Bimpe

From Left to Right: Amarachi, Funmi, Bimpe and Timilehin

Semilore
I think Ruth’s love for her mother-in-law is exemplary. It showed she loved her whole family, not just her husband, but her husband’s family and his people. Women, these days, think that they marry only the husband but they don’t know they marry the whole family. Mothers should imbibe the culture of hospitality in their children. Ruth had an attitude of hospitality in her and so it was easy for her to love her mother in-law with tolerance.

Wunmi
If Ruth was a typical Nigeria woman, I wouldn’t want to be in her shoes. Your husband, brother in-law and father in-law, all dead. In Nigeria, she (including her sister in-law) would be called a witch. And to worsen it, she didn’t have a child for her late husband.
A more courageous woman would have abandoned her mother-inlaw and maybe run off with all her husband’s property.

Timilehin
Naomi and Ruth suffered terrible misfortune: the men in their family died.
Looking at modern day women, I do not think they would have persevered and stayed with their in-laws in that time of sorrow and grief. These days, women usually say…’for better for stay, for worse for go’. I’m very sure most women would have cut ties with Naomi, remarried and left Naomi to live a miserable life till she dies. As a boy, growing to be a man, I would like to believe that my wife will be able to take good care of my mum if anything happens to me.

From Left to Right: Amarachi, Funmi, Bimpe and Timilehin

From Left to Right: Amarachi, Funmi, Bimpe and Timilehin

Dunbarin
I think Ruth was able to show love to Naomi because Naomi also loved her. If you lack love from others check your lifestyle and your love for others. Ruth didn’t lack love because of the way she lived and loved. Women who feel unloved generally live an unloving life. I think the problem with most daughters-inlaw is that they don’t know how to work their way into the heart of their mother in-law because of their unloving life. I may be wrong, but I think what I said is true.
Then, Ruth was a woman of faith and this coupled with her obedience brought blessings and a complete transformation in their lives. Some Nigerian daughters-in-law have no faith neither do they obey God’s instructions concerning love. A faithless and loveless woman will not make a good wife or in-law.

Chayil
I think the actions of Ruth were very risky though brave. Some women will deviously scheme to get their hands on their late husband’s money and probably remarry. I heard that Moabite women were very pretty, so it couldn’t have taken much for her to bid Naomi goodbye and find another man. Easy.
Naomi would also have cared for and loved Ruth or else Ruth would not have considered moving cities with her mother in-law. No woman, Nigerian or not, will travel with an in-law that behaves like a witch to a strange land. That is going to be a real struggle. I may be in Grade 7 but I say all these from experience.
Personally, I wouldn’t travel with a poor in-law to slave away in the fields under the scorching sun, when I can be in my father’s house and be treated like a princess, married or not.
I’m being real here, Aunty Ezar.

Funmi
First of all, I think women who do not get on with their mothers in-law tend to be the same women who don’t get on with their own mothers. I have heard my grandma say so. Many women will not behave like Naomi for various reasons. Jealousy puts up barriers in relationships. Daughters in-law envy the relationship between their husband and their mothers and vice-versa. And I get confused when some mothers want their sons to be looked after exactly like they do it. It is impossible, except the daughter in-law is cloned from her mother in-law, right?
And mothers should learn to give up mothering their sons after marriage. It reduces jealousy.
It’s worth reminding oneself that your mother in-law can be a blessing, and is really worth putting in some work to improve your relationship. My grandma is a real source of support to my mother. If Ruth or Naomi had alienated each other unnecessarily, I’m not sure we would be reading their story with such joy and hope.

Bimpe
I think some women in Nigeria can be compared to Ruth. Ruth was loyal and steadfastly minded. She believed she was already fully owned by Naomi even after the demise of her husband. I think this is a very good thing.
I’m sure she had friends and family members who advised her wrongly but she made up her mind to follow Naomi. It is important that Nigerian ladies refuse to listen to their friends about their opinions over their mother in-law. Trust God to give you the best.
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You have read all they wrote. I am sure we learnt a thing or two from my adorable children. Please write down the name of the student you think gave the best point. They winner goes home with a cash price on Friday. Voting closes by 12noon on Friday.

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About Ezar

I'm in love with my dreams, married to success and having an affair with life ;) I live for the moments you can't put into words and I dont look back...unless there's a good view.

Posted on February 23, 2015, in Relationship and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 158 Comments.

  1. Welldone .Vote goes to Timilehin

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  2. Kudos Children.
    However if i have to choose……I’m voting ……………………….Timilehin

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  3. “If you lack love from others check your lifestyle and your love for others.
    That’s the deal ladies,its a give and take situation.
    #SowloveReaplove#I vote Dunbarin.

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  4. I discovered 90% of mother inlaws dont treat their daughter inlaws like the way they treat their daughters
    Even in some cases, some sis inlaws will join the MIL in fighting the daughter inlaw for no reason just because they have the feelings that the lady is there to enjoy their son’s money even when the son is not capable to take care of the family 100%, they still feel the daughter inlaw is the badluck.Even when their daughter inlaw is trying to please them by buying gifts for them, the see it as bad intention. Its only the experienced once that will really understand what am trying to talk about.
    Amarachi for me.

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  5. As a mother, I hope that my son brings home someone who will fit well into our family, and I hope that I do grow to love her. I have been lucky that two of the three girlfriends my son has had have been wonderful people who still talk to me, even though they are no longer dating him.
    Dunbarin

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  6. The moment you agreed to marry that man you love, you agreed to have a relationship with everything around him. You can never tell me you love your husband when you hate the woman who brought him into the world. I vote for Dunbarin

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  7. Something happens the moment a bride says, “I do.” Not only does she get a husband, but in most cases, she also gets a mother-in-law. Bonds between some daughters- and mothers-in-law are sometimes compared to the close friendship that Ruth and Naomi enjoyed (Ruth 1:16). But far too many women describe this relationship as fragile, tense, and even competitive. I am amazed by the number of replies here about mothers-in-law. I am also surprised by the depth of their emotion. Dunbarin is right about love, but really when the bridge btw a woman and her inlaw is gone, Amarachi’s route is the best. I vote for Amarachi

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  8. Amazing write-ups from the kids. I vote Dumbarin.

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  9. ‘Ruth was a woman of faith and she was also obedient. These attributes brought blessings and a complete transformation of her life’. I agree with you Dunbarin

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  10. Amaraachi and Chayil

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  11. Thought and enlightening. Dunbarin is my vote

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  12. Ruth exemplifies a woman of virture, obedient, faithful and dedicated even in the face of adversity

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  13. Ruth showed a very good character .The vote is for Dunbarin.

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  14. A good and powerful point by Dunbarin. I vote for her

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  15. I totally agree with you, Dunbarin. Loving someone makes it easier for that person to love you back. If your mother in law can see that you genuinely love her, any previous reservations she had for you will eventually fade away and love will blossom

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  16. just exactly like Dunbarin commented, Ruth’s qualities should be emulated by all women and mother-in-laws

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  17. Our education system will improve greatly if teachers should give thought provoking assignments like this. Inbox me d name of the school please. Amarachi has my vote too.

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  18. Timilehin. Good point, my boy.

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  19. I CONCUR THAT A FAITHLESS AND LOVELESS WOMAN WLL LACK LOVE. I VOTE FOR DUNBARIN.

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  20. Amarachi has good points

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  21. Timilehin& Amarachi. Good teaching, Ezar

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  22. Amarachi!!!!!!!

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  23. Amarachi and Chayil. I also like Wunmi.

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  24. Amarachi. then chayil nd timilehin.

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  25. i sincerely say dat ruth is a love somone, responsible nd obedience women dat she knows d righteous things. I boldness vote for dunbarin.

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  26. Amarachi. All the children have done well. I support the motion to reward them all

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  27. Ezar dear, Hw u doing? My org want u to give a presentation. Sent u a detailed email. tnx in adv. I vote for Amarachi.

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  28. I know that majority of girls will take Amarachis point of view. it is d most realistic thing to do. so she shld win

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  29. Impressive and brilliant responses.I’m in support of Dunbarin.

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  30. Whaooh!!! Wonderful kids with brilliant reasoning,but considering love and faith,l will agree with Dunbarin.

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  31. AMARAAAAAA

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  32. Amarchi did a good job. she gets my vote. Then chayil

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  33. Ohhh. Its almost coming to an end. Glad i made it to vote for Amarachi

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  34. Kudos to all but my vote goes to Dunbarin.

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  35. I am a Ghanian, and i know what most women will do. Amarachi should win, closely followed by Timi.
    Keep it up, kids. U will be leaders of tomorrow.

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  36. Amarachi rules.

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  37. This is a serious somethingooo. Amarachi for me.

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  38. Obviously, its either Amarachi or Dunbarin, so there is no need for me to vote for Semilore or Wunmi. If i were to choose between the two, it will be Amarachi.

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  39. MANY THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT VOTED. IT’S NOON. ANY VOTE AFTER THIS COMMENT DOES NOT COUNT. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

    ALL STUDENTS ON THIS POST WILL BE REWARDED
    THE WINNER WILL BE ANNOUNCED ON MY NEXT POST!

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  40. My vote goes to Dunbarin.

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  41. Very intelligent write ups from the children. I however vote Amarachi

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  42. I was unable to comment last week, but I am awed at the minds of thses kids and interest in the stories in the Bible.
    May they keep growing up in this path in Jesus name, amen.

    And I vote for dunbarin.
    It’s just spot on(not that the others aren’t)
    But love and faith are the fulcrum of Christianity and marriages and relationships.
    No love, nothing goes.
    And a women must be a woman of faith, that goes without saying..

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  43. I hope my comment went through..

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